Should your Women’s Ministry drop the self-esteem talk- featured on bible.org

I hate opening up about stuff that’s embarrassing but when it may bless someone else I am down 🙂 share, like comment here is a quote from the article- “My search for value also created a  deep divide between my sisters in Christ; instead of assets to my personal walk, I saw other women as benchmarks that either challenged my worth or affirmed it because I personally devalued theirs. ”

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Oh great another team building thing at work

team-building-580326You know the drill, they call in a consultant and you meet up with your co-workers for bagels and coffee. You throw around colored feeling balls with emojis on them. You do a personality indicator test and your are told that you’re a mole or a rabbit, an lion, a D, I , or L M N O P.  You have a box lunch and you end the day writing a letter to your future self about professional goals.

Most of us have been there with any organization right? Well our number came up yesterday and I was expecting a cookie cutter version of Kumbyya, instead what I received was mind blowing, face melting, awe inspiring collaborative training! I have to remind myself not to judge a book by its cover!  My team had the honor of being trained by a highly talented consulting group (no I am not getting paid for plugging them). J. Spooner Consulting  the same organization that has done team building for NASA’s Orion Mars mission! (How freakin awesome is that I have been trained like an astronaut so that kinda makes me one).

If you are anything like me you have a great experience one day and learn a lot of things and then you forget them all. So I write in order to not forget. I am really writing this for myself but if you’d like to come along with me that’s cool.

Here are some major takeaways I must remember to apply in my personal and professional life I learned at my astronaut training yesterday:

  1. Be a Trust Builder! Relationships in business, ministry and all of life cannot function without trust. Show yourself trustworthy and be willing to take the risk of trusting others. If you are building trust you may have to take a hit but true trust builders can handle it. You continue to extend trust and typically break through to a person once they have let you down and you give them another chance to prove themselves.
  2. Self-Confidence and Self Esteem! These are paramount for collaboration! One’s ability to produce has less to do with what their management thinks of them, and more to do with what they think of themselves. However management can reinforce how one negatively views themselves.
  3. In light of #2 be a confidence and esteem builder! Be careful to not undermine the confidence and esteem of your team members. It is so easy for us to unconsciously cut down one another.
  4. Don’t be Hitler, Be Martin Luther King! You may have heard that both Hitler and Martin Luther King had the same leadership and personality profile in most systems, but what made the difference is their motivation. One focused on self aggrandizement and one focused on the collective building of all people. Motive is key!
  5. 80% of the Work force is underutilized and underdeveloped! People who have been labeled average typically produce average work and never push to the next level. The difference between a sub par worker and an exceptional worker is typically building self esteem, confidence and trust. Almost anyone can be taught skills, but its harder to teach self worth.
  6. Don’t Hold your Cards Close to your Chest! It is counterproductive to work as a team while practicing secrecy and hidden motives. Over communicate your intentions and needs so as to not leave room for misinterpretation. Ask questions and be truthful. If you decide on a plan of action do not hold a secret plan B behind your back because people can smell dishonesty.

The Irony of My Life.

My Sweet little boy turned 5 months on Sunday and I am finally in that sweet spot where I can catch my breath! I have figured out the exact angle he likes to be held in order to go to sleep, I can decipher his cries, My husband and I no longer pull over and put the hazard lights on when he is screaming his head off in the back seat! (lol that actually happened New Parent Syndrome).  And this is the kicker… I am finally bold enough to whip out my boob in public when my baby is hungry!

I have calculated the amount of time I need In the morning to… jump in the shower, spend 15 minuets breastfeeding baby, get him dressed, sanitize his bottles, pack all of my breast pump supplies, load up any frozen breast milk, pack his diaper bag, make myself coffee, toast a bagel and balance 3 bags and my 20 pound baby as I walk down 2 flights of stairs… Drop of the baby and get to work on time! (kind of 🙂

Not only am I a mom, but I am also a wife. On top of all of this I am in full time Ministry. As if that wasn’t enough I am also in my final year of seminary!

SOOOOO the big question is how do I do it all? I get asked this question all the time. but the honest truth is I really don’t know the answer… I am a firm believer that humans have a fantastic ability to adjust to their reality. And adjust is what we shall do!  People assume that I should be stammering around like the Walking Dead but the truth is, I am having a blast, I am energized by my job, I am enthralled by my beautiful baby and I am so very happy! (Most of the time lol)

I have noticed that although I am not as physically exhausted as one may think I do have a mental fog that has settled over me and the forecast apparently is cloudy with a chance of rain for years to come. When people ask me if I am worn out I always think hmmmm maybe I should be more worn out.  Maybe I am fooling myself and I am headed towards a systems overload.

The truth is I just don’t really know right now, I am loving being a Mom, a Minister and a Wife and I don’t have everything figured out but I am taking things one day at a time. That is why I wanted to start this blog. Pampers in the Pew represents the irony of my life. Ministry and Home life colliding in a Women’s world is a topic that is barely covered. I mean how many ministers do you know have attempted to write a bible study while a baby was suckling at your teet 🙂 (I have done this!)

ImageSo when you ask how I do it all, I all I know is that God’s grace is sufficient and I have a Fantastic Husband who makes room for my life.